I was always a romantic, even before I knew the meaning of the word ‘Romance’. The notion of ‘love-at-first-sight’ was something I wanted to experience the most. Romance novels and movies made the situation inside my head worse than ever.
End result: I fell in love every week. My love at first sight happened only to sizzle away within 3 days. The longest it stayed back at that point of time was may be a week or at the most 10 days. Eventually I gave up and became a skeptic. Just then good old cupid took matters into his able hands. I can’t say I fell in love the moment I set my eyes on him, but it definitely started sometime on that first meeting. But of course, I realized it much later. Years later! Four or five years to be precise. Even then I wonder, does love-at-first-sight exist or am I still being an ass.
Love at first sight is an emotional condition whereby a person feels romantic attraction for a stranger on the first encounter with the stranger. The term may be used to refer to a mere sexual attraction or crush , but it usually refers to actually falling in love with someone literally the very first time one sees him or her, along with the deep desire to have an intimate relationship with that person. The stranger may or may not be aware that the other person has any such notion, and may not even be aware of the other person’s presence (such as in a crowded place). Sometimes two people experience this phenomenon towards each other at the same time, usually when their eyes meet.
BBC, edition 10th September 2004 claims:
Proof: love at first sight exists
Love at first sight may not be just for old romantics, according to scientists.
People decide what kind of relationship they want within minutes of meeting, a study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships said.
“It’s almost a self-fulfilling prophecy. We make a prediction about what kind of relationship we could have with a person and that helps determine how much effort we are willing to put into developing a relationship.”….
Whether it happened to me or I imagined the whole thing, it’s definitely good news for hopeless romantics. This whole affair has scientific merit to it. May be a few pointers will help here since colour and body language helps all such situations.
- Wear bright colours if you are out to make strong first impressions. Preferably red, since it’s the most stimulating colour on women. Men on the other hand should wear blue as the colour blue depicts the person as being faithful and reliable.
- Smile a lot. A smiling face is the most attractive and approachable. Make sure the smile isn’t a fake one which can be easily seen through. Be happy and show your happy face.
- Wear the right scent. Licorice for men – for some weird reason women are attracted to that particular perfume. Vanilla and cinnamon for women, be it in the form of lotion or perfume. This is an instant attraction / turn-on for men.
These are just ideas which may work in your favour. No one knows when the little guy with the arrow decides to strike. You may be dressed as a pumpkin for the children’s play when the man you have been waiting for all your life sees through all that make-up and promptly falls in love with you. Or it may take you years to realize your crush of yesteryears is the only one you can think of every time the Love word pops up in your mind.